Every day, I log into Google Reader and check out the recommended blogs. Because I’m a good sex nerd and keep up with all the major sex blogs: Boinkology, Fleshbot, Waking Vixen, Daily Bedpost, etc, Google Reader is always throwing other sex blogs into my line of vision. I also subscribe to a few real estate and local blogs (I am an informed, well rounded perv), so it’s a bizarre mix of civil news and smut.  I’m waiting for the day it gives me: Best Open Houses to Fuck in! Or, Hottest Real Estate Agents! Fetishes of your City Council members!

By and large, the blogs it finds for me are anonymous sex blogs, usually written by people in New York, who are all fucking each other and writing about it. And when I read them, which I always do, and I almost always end up subscribing, all I can think is… I want IN! I want someone to write about me the way these people write about each other. What a huge ego boost it must be to go on a date with someone and then the next morning, over your coffee, read about how hot you looked and how good you sounded and how amazing it was to fuck you. No wonder the people in the scene all fuck each other. My feeling about it is they all feed off of the attention. How mortifying it must be to go on a date with one of these bloggers and then have the other person not even mention it?

The other thing that strikes me about these blogs is the insane level of detail put into each re-telling. I’ve written re-caps for my sexual encounters and I can never remember certain things. I’m amazed at what these writers can come up with. I realize there is a certain amount of embellishing going on here, but my attitude with it has always been to stick to the facts, stick to the truth. Also, I am so damn cerebral that I tend to stick to how I was feeling, in my head, in my never ending, never quiet manic brain that the physicality is a bit lost on me. No wonder I can’t re-tell it.

There is also a tradition on a lot of these blogs that I was confused by at first, the “HNT“. Apparently, it stands for “Half Naked Thursday” and it’s a meme where a lot of bloggers post half naked pictures of themselves every Thursday. Since, the majority are anonymous, we are treated to a lot of photos of the bottom of faces, or the back of heads, or just floating torsos or cleavage or an individual set of legs. The majority of people I saw posting their photos are conventionally attractive, except for the case of Curvacous Dee, a large woman who has quite a few explicit photos of herself up. This totally fascinated me, as a red blooded American girl with the typical arsenal of body image issues, that a woman who wasn’t thin or “curvy” (just thin with big boobs, imagine the Scarlett Johanssen model) would put herself up for display in this manner.

salma hayek is another example of a woman who is often called "curvy" as a euphemism for "fat". in reality, she is just thin with large breasts, which make her have a more defined waist.

And I think that’s the crux of why I’m so fascinated with these sex blogs, and with amateur porn in general (the rare real amateur), that people would put all of this out there for others to see with such bravado. That these people would describe their affairs, their raw, naked moments and not just their bodies, but these experiences, and lay it all out there.  Is it for the attention? I would reckon a lot of it is, blogging is as much exhibitionism as it is writing practice, but I think it’s also worth noting these blogs to see the depth and levels of sexuality that exist in the world.

Reading these other sex blogs also made me think about where we fit into the sex blogosphere, if we fit into it all (not that we particularly care. Like John McCain and Sarah Palin, my co-blogger and I are mavericks on the straight talk express!)   We certainly didn’t start this blog to talk about our own sex lives and that’s not where I see us headed at all, rather we wanted a place to comment on the reality of what a lot of people’s sex life actually is, and that’s masturbating to porn vs fucking other people.  We also wanted, in many ways, to talk about the affect smut has on other forms of culture, and representations of sexuality in non-smutty forms.  But, there’s also, bigger considerations, such as:  how porn relates to actual human sexuality and actual human sexual experience. Is porn a reflection of what turns our society on? Does porn affect society or is it the other way around?

In any case, we’ll keep what we’ve been doing — having fun, sharing some good clips and showing what huge nerds we are. And maybe, just maybe one day, we’ll do a Half Nekkid Thursday. I’ve been meaning to see what color Chucks Sin Titulo has been wearing lately, anyway!

Your Sex Blog Reading List: Real Adult Sex, The Late Bloomer Finally Blooms, Y Tu Hermano Tambien, Writing Dirty, and my all time, favorite (coincidentally, not anonymous or sexy in the slightest), One D At A Time.